Are you sure he's the right guy for you?

1. He is interested. He contacts you, makes plans with you and follows through. NOTE: Just because he calls or texts a lot doesn't count because he can't see you, touch you, adore you or get to know you.

2. He is accomplished, in at least on area of his life. If he went to college he now has a good job. If he inherited his parent's business, he runs it well.

3. He's a stand-up guy. He says what he means and means what he says. You don't have to worry about him lying.

4. He's into you. He should do just as much for you as you do for him. If you're the only one giving and all he gives you is an occasional text message or phone call, or booty call, you are not getting what you need.

5. He's consistent. When he's with you, he's just like he is with his friends. He doesn't turn into someone else, a drunk or a gambler or a ladies man. And he's okay to take around your friends.

6. He's understanding. He loves you even when you had a bad day. Beware of a man who won't allow you to have a bad day because it upsets HIM.

7. He is not judgmental. He will never see you as fundamentally bad or make you feel bad about yourself.

8. He's trusting. He gives you some space and privacy and doesn't keep you on a leash. Conversely, he doesn't expect too much privacy and a right to roam around or be gone for 3 days without you knowing where he is.

9. He is willing to talk. When there's something about the relationship that is troubling you, he's willing to talk about it.

10. He's proactive. If he has issues or challenges, he'll seek help. If he has a drug or alcohol problem, he won't blow it off, he'll do something about it.

11. He is not controlling. He lets you in on the decision making process. Even if he has more money than you, he never makes you feel like you'd be screwed without him.